Margaret Petersen, MFT

Counseling and Psychotherapy

 



”Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within ourselves that we have built against it.”  ~ Rumi

Is your relationship showing signs of wear and tear?  Are you noticing patterns over and over again, where you are bickering or disagreeing?  Are you both feeling emotionally cut off and living like roommates in a state of growing disconnect? Is there an issue of infidelity, addiction, or abusive patterns that keep you from feeling safe and emotionally connected?

Often, when we are in these places, the core issue is not the same old argument, but is a question of, “Are you there for me?"  "Do I matter to you?”  “Will you turn towards me and respond to me, when I need you to?”

Being in an intimate relationship with one another is one of the most vulnerable things we can do as human beings. Relationships are assaulted with stressors, such as bringing a baby into the fold, relocation and job/career changes, communication problems, finances, parenting, and so on.

And relationships can be improved.  Making the call to inquire about couples therapy is a clear sign of commitment and desire to be in a happier and safer place together.  Scheduling an appointment for couples work is a statement to yourselves, that you and your partner are worth the effort it takes to change.

Please don’t let the negative patterns, sadness, or cold silences continue….  I’d like to help, before things get worse.  I use an internationally recognized approach called Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT).

Couples therapy will be a fresh start of carefully creating safety, letting go of blame, seeing the relationship as something to support, versus seeing either one of you in a critical light, and joining forces to find the best possible ways to come together in a beautifully intimate way.  I check in with both partners often in the course of our work together.  I track improvements and highlight change, and I skillfully keep bringing the relationship back to the deeper place of connection and safety in a respectful way as the relationship takes on an intimate dance of its own.

Click here to download more information about Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: WHAT IS EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY.pdf (pdf file for downloading)



You deserve to have a relationship that works.  Please call me with any questions or to just learn a little bit more about how I will respectfully hold and work with what you and your partner bring to  couples therapy with me.  My confidential voice mail is (925) 520-5263 or email me at margaret@theheartdistinction.com.

 

Couples

"Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. 
Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens." 
~ Carl Jung